1) You are Different
Respond to the world like you will try every day to be good to your body and yourself, even though it might be harder for you than most. Having a chronic allergy or a food allergy doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you. It means that your body just responds to the elements of the earth, differently. It’s more sensitive and being more sensitive doesn’t mean something is wrong it means that it has a standard on what elements to let in. In all your body is booshy, stuck up,
2) You are Socially Crippled
Some people don’t understand that eating out is about the social experience as much as the food and if you eliminate the food that doesn’t mean you don’t need to go to an eating out event for the social experience.
I prefer the one that doesn’t care. But because a lot of people will respond to your food allergy in various ways. Just to protect my mental health, I limit eating out to just with friends. Or I’ll go to a social gathering with friends so it isn’t too awkward. If you need more tips to live a less awkward life check out Nickely Challenged Etiquette: Eating out or my Food Allergy Etiquette Tips.
Being socially crippled doesn’t mean you cannot socialize. But being aware of how your food allergy makes others feel, will help you navigate the social scene a bit better.
3) Have Supportive People
I do emphasize this because it will definitely help with your transition. Bu, by saying that, that doesn’t mean that my food allergy discovery was smooth. I actually had to convenience my parents after getting severely sick, twice to take my food allergy seriously. And they definitely did, well for a while. They gave me money for food, when I was in college, even though I paid for a meal plan that I couldn’t use.Which I definitely appreciated, but a year later, they wanted me to get off the diet when I went back to Kenya to visit my Cucu (grandmother). I swear it’s a balancing act of caring enough for you not to die but not caring enough so people know that there is nothing wrong with you.
In all, that they made me feel like I was a disgrace, an outcast, like me having a food allergy was inconveniencing their life. I could talk about this for ages but if you want to hear the whole story read:Outcasted.
this last year I meet wonderful people in my internship and in my temporary job. They definitely didn’t want to exclude me, and they really didn’t care too much about my severe food allergy. “It was like, okay, so what do you like to watch?” I swear to sweet baby Jesus, that was a blessing. I also was very close to one of the fellow interns called Tammy and well it was magical in that department. She even helped me through an anaphylactic shock. I swear after that friendship, I have a new standard on how people should treat me. Cause well, I come with a lot.
4) Use your Resources
Using your resources is detrimental to your health. If you have accepted #1 “You are Different,” then this won’t be a problem. Even though, my school didn’t get me off the meal plan, forcing me to move off campus. I didn’t use my resources, I didn’t know I could claim disability for my nickel allergy. Most of the time, I would come home so tired and had to sleep like 12 hours in order to even go to school and maintain my high GPA. Hampton University used coal or something or rather that would make me light-headed by the end of the day.
In other words, chronic fatigue became my best friend, it even caused me to get the worst anaphylactic shock my senior year in front of my peers and teachers, can you say embarrassing. My teacher was so nice enough to extend my assignment with a decreased grade but he said I should have been on disability, so if I got sick or the chronic fatigue was too much, I could have gotten an extension.
Also, if you have a nutritionist definitely use it, I know Syracuse University has one. I would say maybe see a counselor, so you can adjust well, since university is seriously too stressful for life and now you are dealing with a chronic allergy.
I would emphasize you join a Facebook group that supports your allergy and if there is none, definitely start one. *If you need help, don’t hesitate to ask*
If you have a nickel allergy definitely join these two group: The one I started Nickel Allergy Group & Stephanie started Eczema Cause by Nickel Allergy. I definitely have so much planned for my group.
5) You Can Do Anything
In all actuality, you may not be able to do everything but don’t limit yourself until you figure out what the situation is. My severe food allergy in college definitely prevented me from studying abroad because I didn’t know the housing situation since I needed a kitchen. In all, that doesn’t mean you cannot do it.But when you are doing fellowships that pay for meals, you can ask for a refund because there is no way you can be accommodated. If this cannot happen, go anyway, just hopefully your parents can help you with the finances for food since fellowships can be daunting in their workload. In all, the only thing I didn’t do was study abroad, but I don’t think I missed out, I was a McNair Scholar for a summer at University of Rochester. Had a week long presentation conference in North Carolina which I had to meal plan for. I don’t recommend this, cause you might have a minor anxiety attack trying to figure out how much food will sustain you. Also, a two-day Graduate Exposer Orientation at Ohio State which they definitely accommodated me, not with the food but the hotel with a fridge and microwave. The only school which didn’t was the school I was in, Hampton University but I did make it work. So not all schools are like that.
6) Listen to your body
See what I did there? I literally slide in another tip.
By the way, if you are new, just a disclaimer, I tend to talk to myself.
So life doesn’t come in the guidelines that mankind has put forth.This is a very sad truth I am learning to live with. Since, I see the world in my eyes and I always try my hardest to make someone feel accepted, included and understood. But no, the .. is a myth, a façade that people amplify to think this world is a better place and rainbows show after rainy days and people genuinely care.
and I am not saying this so you can be sad that this is the world we live in. But in all actuality, everyone is looking out for themselves so they end up neglecting everyone around them.
So the point of this sad violin I am playing is that, if you know this, then you know how to keep yourself alive, from having an allergic reactions, or out of the hospital, or even homeless.
I took this advice by not letting anyone cook for me without me having an eagles eye on them. My sister actually poisoned me,the fatigue was unbearable couldn’t stay awake for more than 5 hours. But in all, they aren’t bad people, just naïve people, who don’t know the consequences of their actions.
and if you have supportive people give them a hug for me and if you need to even tell you, family, not to cook for you, . So be kind and loving to even more than most.
So that is it? What did you think? Did I miss something?
Definitely tell me, so I can include it in my part two. This is definitely a new spin on back to school tips with food allergies but I feel like it was much need, don’t you agree?
Well, if you watched the video you definitely saw me crying, Arg! I’m a bit of an emotional creature. Well talking about acceptance is an emotional thing to talk about, since we all crave it but somehow don’t give it. A bit of a contradiction, I might add.
So, what will make me happy is for you to live the most authentic life you can possibly live. When I say possibly, I mean in a way that you don’t cause your life more harm, like being in the wilderness and just forgetting society.
Love, kisses and unicorn poop.
And stay Beautiful!
It is a person that is not afraid to be themselves and doesn’t bash anyone else who is living in their truth. So be you, be beautiful even though you have allergies, illness, or whatever makes you think that you are less than human. Again, just because your body responds to the world differently doesn’t mean you have to! "Check out the Body Project by Alexandra"